Introducing my SIT WITH IT Grief Journal

2019 was my most trying year in grief because that was when all the activities and sympathising visits dropped to a near stop. The initial shock of Yakubu’s demise was waning for most and life was gradually returning to almost normal for those who knew and loved him. There would of course be the gradual whiff of remembrance followed by deep sighs and maybe a tear or two.But life in general was flowing where it would.

This was most people’s reality EXCEPT his widow and her 2 kids. For us, life came to a standstill. We woke up to a new reality that was devoid of colour nor taste. We were like the blind trying to navigate this new albeit very rocky terrain. We groped in the dark for a while.

One of the tools or gifts I got that saw me through some of the toughest, most painful and loneliest seasons in my life were journals from friends and loved ones. I am sure they didn’t know it then, but these journals saved my life and sanity. Within the pages of these journals, I escaped reality even for a short time. I was able to pen down thoughts and questions that had been frowned upon or I had been discouraged from saying out loud. I was able to easily let the tears flow without shame or guilt. It was the safe companion I didn’t even know that I need then. I wrote to Yakubu. I wrote to God. I wrote to my children. I wrote to my future self. I also did a ton of forgiveness work within those pages. I began healing as I poured it out.

Looking back now, I acknowledge that journalling was one of the earliest therapy I received without even realising the immense impact it has had on my healing journey. The words I wrote in my darkest moments have become the beacon of hope for me when the anxieties and uncertainties of life rear their heads. My journals remind me of how far God has carried and is still carrying me. They remind me to keep holding on to faith and continue taking daily steps towards hope and healing.

It is because of the support and safe space I was blessed with having those journals in my hands that I bring to you the SIT WITH IT (Grief Journal) alongside the YIN YANG (Grief Workbook) as the safe companions and support you’d need on your journey.
These resources meet you where you are and gently hold your hands and hearts as you navigate the murky waters of loss and grief.

No timeline.
No judgement.
No shaming.
No guilt tripping.
No looks of disapproval.
No rush.

There’s just you, in your world, your reality, with your pain, your tears, your emotions, your silence, your words. ALL YOURS.

Do you know someone who could benefit from having the Grief Journal and Workbook in their hands and homes? Share this with them today. Or better still, gift someone the 3in1 Combo set and be a part of their healing journey.

All books are available on preorder on: selar.com/GriefSupport.

Let’s go on this journey together.

Dee.