THE REAL IMPACT OF UNSTABLE RELATIONSHIPS

Most people think that investing time and resources working on their romantic relationships is not the most productive use of their time.

The amazing thing is that most of us have not taken out time to count the cost of an emotionally unstable romantic relationship on our productivity and personal peace of mind.

The effect of an unstable relationship cuts deeper and is more far reaching than we admit to. Let’s imagine how a day plagued with quarrel looks like for a typical couple.

During such fights or arguments, your blood pressure is higher and the heart pounds more vigorously. You will most likely storm out not speaking to each other.

All of a sudden , the entire world takes a new color. All drivers on the road seem to be a bit more stupid, our employers, staff or colleagues seem to make more mistakes, sometimes the children are unspared, in fact the entire world just seems to have forgotten how to function properly.

The best part of the story is that for the better part of the day, most of us are unable to concentrate on any prior project we had been working on before the squabble. We now have this urgent new task that takes precedence over and above all other projects – we need to urgently plan a revenge plot that will hurt our spouse the way they have hurt us.

Hmmm, the drama goes on and on. This unhealthy cycle occurs more frequently than we concede to. We can choose to address conflicts in our relationship more precisely by speaking to a professional or choose to ignore it while it sucks the life out of us, our peace, our creativity and productivity.

Adenike Adekunle is a Relationship Coach based in Abuja. She is very passionate about relationships and marriages. She has vast depth in understanding emotions and can be reached on +234 703 628 8244.